ok so I need some help. the boyfriend and I took the kids to the pride parade today. on the way back my 3 yo son climbed up on the porch at my uncles' house. I told him we were leaving an he needed to get down and he didn't listen. so the bf grabbed him, but not appropriately. he got like the meat of his arm and pulled him down with that. Now he has a bruise and even nail marks. i made the bf leave my apartment. he wanted to tell he didn't mean to hurt devin, and i flipped out telling of course he didn't fucking mean to that people don't try to leave fucking marks, but it happenes when u aren't careful. now i don't know what to do... at the moment i feel like i need to keep him out of my life, but i don't know if i am over-reacting. he is really a great guy and a parent himself. in fact i had a test this morning and he woke up with the kids and took them to the museum of play. he just gets really impatient and his first reaction is always to spank the kids. however that is how he was raised. although i do spank the kids too sometimes, i think he over reacts and does it way too quick. i have explained to him better ways of doing things. and we do work on better ways to parent the kids.
i am really upset right now and like i said i don't know what to do. i don't know if we should just talk things out and he will just cool his jets or if i should just ends things right now.
please any suggestions would be great!